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Hi Mel

A friend told me that you know a good way to make money, just working from home, working when I like for as long as I like, my friend also showed me his last pay check so I know he's not having a laugh , please tell me more as I need extra money coming in , thanks

Jim Manchester

Well all you need to do Jim is go to my site www.tiscali-network.com/zxtwo and join as a IBA which is a Independent Business Associate find only 3 customers then your IN and the rest is down to you, if you want £50 aweek or £500 aweek.

John from Birmingham.
Dieting sounds like common sense.. I do try to exercise. I just get bored late at night and like some cheese and stuff to go with my bottle (sorry glass) of wine. How does a man over 40 get a six pack?

Mel says:
When you say you try to exercise how much exercise do you try to do?
If you are bored late at night you could do some sit ups then it will help you sleep too.
As for the cheese and wine you may have too much yeast in your diet. Cheese and wine are full of yeast. This affects the digestive system so you may be bloated especially if your abdomen is hard. If it is soft then you have some fat. Eating late at night will make you store more calories. Alcohol and dairy are rich in calories. I would suggest you cut down on your cheese and wine, limit yourself to 1 glass a day as opposed to 1 bottle. Greek Feta cheese made from goats milk or sheep's milk is preferable to cows milk is hard to digest. Hummus is another good alternative to cheese. Snack on fruit at night as this will clean your system. However I wouldn’t recommend dried fruit such as dates, figs, raisins and apricots as they are rich in yeast. So only eat dried fruit in moderation.
If you want to cleanse your system from yeast try an acidophollus supplement or pau d’arco for 6 months, you can also make it as a tea..
As for trying to exercise aim to do 30 mins of exercise 5 times a week. As you are in your 40s I would recommend gentle exercises like walking or swimming. For your 6 pack you need to do sit ups. Check out my sit up guide.
Good luck

I cannot afford a girlfriend

I am 26 years old and cannot get a girlfriend. Everytime I start seeing a girl it doesn’t last for long before she loses interest. All the girls seem to want is a guy with money and a car. I am a good looking guy, intelligent and genuine but that doesn’t seem to be enough. Why can’t I find someone who likes me the way I am? Do you think I should stop looking until I find a better paid and job and can afford a car?

Sam from Essex

Don’t worry it will happen. You just have to be patient. If you want to get a better job and buy a car then go for it follow your dreams. just click this site! www.tiscali-network.com/zxtwo However it seems like you are just attracting the wrong kinds of girls who are materialistic. Save yourself for someone who likes you the way you are. Don’t try too hard to find love let love find you. If you drop a bar of soap in the shower have you noticed that the more you try to grab it the more it slips away. Just be happy within yourself and believe in yourself. As you say you are good looking, intelligent and genuine but the problem is that you think that these qualities are not good enough for girls. No they are not good enough for you, respect yourself and avoid these materialistic girls because they are not your type.

I cannot last for 1 minute

I am 27 and have only ever had sex with 2 girls so I am not that experienced. I have been seeing my girlfriend now for 2 months and her vagina is too tight, everytime we have sex I ejaculate too quickly. She has been really supportive and told me to relax and not worry about it but it has been 2 months and things are not getting any easier. I tried a spray to last longer in bed and it didn’t work. I feel like I am gonna have this problem forever and it is embarrassing.

Luke from Ipswich

Practice makes perfect. If you want to last longer then you should try to masturbate or get your partner to do it for you that way once you have ejaculated when you have sex it will last longer. Make sure that you have lots of foreplay with your partner and use a water based lubricant so that her vagina is very moist because if her vagina is very tight then you will come very quickly. When you feel that you are about to orgasm pull out and try foreplay and different positions so that you last longer. Also when you feel to aroused best to think of something unattractive.

I have a girlfriend who has gone back to Brazil. We were only together for a few weeks but I liked her for 6 months before we got together. She keeps telling me that she is coming back to the UK but she keeps delaying it and making up excuses. I don’t trust her and I think she has somebody else. As a consequence I have been having a sex with somebody else but I am crazy about my girl in Brazil. I don’t know what to do and I do not want to be on my own. The other problem is another girl is after me but I do not find her sexually attractive. She knows I have a girlfriend in Brazil but won’t take no for an answer. I am so stressed and it is affecting my work.

James from Newcastle

If you have already been unfaithful then this relationship with your girl in Brazil will not work. I think you should tell your girl that you do not want to have a relationship with her because of the distance and that you can only have a relationship with her if she comes over. In the meantime enjoy yourself and if somebody else comes along then go for it. Don’t wait for the girl in Brazil as it may never happen. As for this other girl tell her that if she won’t accept no then you don’t want to continue your friendship.

I have fallen in love with a girl who is from a totally different cultural and religious background to me. She is Indian and although she is Westernised, her family want her to marry somebody from the same religious and cultural background. I don’t know whether or not to give up on her because I am so in love with her but if her family won’t accept me then I don’t see the point of keeping it going. She said that she will marry who she loves and not somebody that her family wants her to marry. The problem is she won’t introduce me to her family. I am so confused.

David from Wolverhampton

I would suggest you give it time as she probably doesn’t want to embarrass herself in front of her family by introducing you to them in case your relationship doesn’t last. I suggest that for now you should just relax, enjoy your relationship and not worry about it. If it is meant to be it is meant to be. Worrying is just going to cause a strain on the relationship so I wouldn’t make an issue out of it

I feel trapped in my marriage. A few years ago I found out my wife was having an affair. She started being really nice to me and then when she went out to the shop I picked up her mobile phone and there was a text from another guy saying he had a great night last night and she had the sexiest breasts. I confronted her and she told me she was sorry. I didn’t speak to her for weeks and we slept apart but stayed together for the sake of the kids. Now I cannot stop having secret sexual affairs with women as I don’t trust her anymore. I cannot be faithful to her but I hate the sneaking around and I don’t feel I can carry on like this for the rest of my life.

Mariano from Miami

It is time to face the music and accept the fact that your marriage cannot go on like this. You said that you cannot trust her anymore so the best thing you can do is to end the marriage and that way you can enjoy the freedom of sexual affairs without the sneaking around. Enjoy yourself for a while and when you meet someone that you want to commit to that you feel you can trust then you will have a more stable future. It is not fair on the children to give a false illusion of being in a happy marriage.