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My marriage is over
I am so depressed. I have been with my husband for 6 years now and we lived
together before we got married and everything was fine. We have 3 children but
things have been going downhill from the beginning of the year. He never wanted
to do anything for Valentines Day. I got him a card and a present and he didn’t
bother getting me anything in return. I booked a table at a really nice Italian
restaurant and I had to cancel it. He refused to go and said he was going to his
mates to fix his car. I thought he would make up for it later but he didn’t and
when I tried to talk to him about it he said that Valentines Day is just a waste
of money.
Since then he started having sex less frequently with me. I went to
weight-watchers and have lost 2 stone and started going to a gym to look more
attractive. I dyed my hair blonde and have started to wear make-up and bought a
new wardrobe of clothes. I thought this would make him find me more attractive
and expected our sex life to blossom but it hasn’t. The sex became even more
infrequent as he kept saying he was too tired. I backed off and just tried to
cuddle up with him in bed and to be patient. After a couple of months he told me
he didn’t love me anymore and didn’t want to continue our marriage. I am so
depressed I have lost all my confidence in myself. My family said that I should
put up with it as we have kids but he doesn’t want to know.
Sarah from Leeds
This marriage is not working and you both know it. It is time to face reality
now you have done everything in your power to make the marriage work but like
you said he doesn’t want to know. The best thing you can do is to end your
marriage and live separately. The children will be happier to live in a
comfortable environment as opposed to one where the parents are not happy
together and it is not fair on your children to give them a false illusion.
It is good that you have lost weight and changed your image, you must be feeling
better but at the same time although it is good for one’s self confidence to
have a makeover make sure you are doing it for you and not somebody else. The
right man will love you for who you are.
He doesn’t love me
I have been with my boyfriend now for 1 year and he still says he doesn’t love
me. He said only believes that true love comes once in a lifetime and he loved
his ex girlfriend so he cannot love anybody else. He says he hates her and would
never go back to her.. I get so jealous when he talks about her because he is
always talking about how he wanted to marry her and have children with her but
he says he doesn’t believe in marriage anymore and doesn’t want to have any
children. I know he is scared of getting hurt. Do you think I should just be
patient or do you think I am wasting my time with him?
Vicky from Nottingham
It sounds like he hasn’t got over his ex. If you are looking for commitment with
this man then I don’t think it is going anywhere. It takes time to love
somebody. Some people fall in love with people quicker than others and if one
has been hurt then it will take that person longer. However if he is saying that
he doesn’t want to get married or have children and you do then you are wasting
your time with him. It would be better in the long run if you were to walk away
from this relationship now.
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